I am so weary of the political crazies. I am looking forward to Thanksgiving when the theater of the absurd finally draws
the curtain. I know this is all part of the challenging transits being visited upon the world but sometimes I just want to go fishing, gaze at the stars and imagine I smell the beautiful pine woods. No cell phone connections, no traffic and the only sounds are wind, rain (remember I live in a drought area) and maybe a howling of some animal. I can read as many real paper books as I want and I can sleep the sleep of the contented. The air is clear, crisp and devoid of pollutants.
However, back on planet stress, I am avoiding some of the headlines now as the 24 hour news machines are filled with poll numbers that change by the minute. It’s insane and, if you are not careful, you can get hooked on Act 2, Scene 3 of the theater of the absurd. That’s why I like to look at the bigger picture, past this time of twitching and convulsions, and see what’s going on that is missed by the general public.
It has been brought to my attention that as we become more enlightened, more aware, more experienced, we are seeking answers to some of the most important questions of life. One of these topics is the dying process. I received many replies both via emails and on the post itself when I wrote recently about “Death Rides On Your Shoulder) (July 6th). Thanks to you, my dear readers, I received information about a group called “Death Cafe”. At first I thought it was a coffee shop in LA. Perhaps connected to the Mexican tradition celebrated on the Day of the Dead. But it wasn’t. It is actually an idea that began in Europe and has spread to the United States. I think it is a wonderful idea and will help open our newest frontier of the mind, the brain and consciousness and the dying process. How do you die? What can we expect? Do I just go to sleep and wake up out there? Is this all there is? Why is EVERYBODY afraid to die? People want to go to heaven, they just don’t want to die to get there. Just as getting rid of your baby teeth, you are going to go through the dying process. Each of us is ill prepared. We seem to set our financial affairs in order (some of us do) but most of us talk about “if I die” or “when I die” but we haven’t a clue as to what the heck we are doing. Some of us with extremely painful deaths beg to die. But most people would say, “not yet” “I’m not ready” or “come back next year”.
To help you with this fear “Death Cafes” are coming to your area. We have several of them in Los Angeles and San Diego area. They actually started in the US in Maryland. Here is an excerpt from one of the hosts:
“Death Cafes have spread quickly across Europe, North America and Australia. As of today, we have offered 3358 Death Cafes since September 2011. If 10 people came to each one that would be 33580 participants. We’ve established both that there are people who are keen to talk about death and that many are passionate enough to organise their own Death Cafe. The Death Cafe model was developed by Jon Underwood and Sue Barsky Reid, based on the ideas of Bernard Crettaz.
Death Cafe has no staff and is run on a voluntary basis by Jon Underwood in Hackney, East London. Also Lizzy Miles who ran the first Death Cafe in the U.S. and Megan Mooney who runs the Death Cafe Facebook page have played a significant role in Death Cafe’s development. We remain energised by the amazing quality of the dialogue at our events and are overwhelmed by the interest we have received. “
So there you have it. At last we can go eat, smooze and talk about death. You can start your OWN Death Cafe in your area. This is a powerful growing trend and one that is appropriate to our times. The more we can get comfortable with our own death–randomly selected–the more valuable we can live our current lives and make the most of them. We realize that death is the huge change we all need to make in order to open up a fresh start. Do look up www.deathcafe.com and learn how you can host your own cafe or visit one in your area. Please let me know.